A Bit of This About That

It is much more comfortable to make my own decisions.

When others make them for me,

even if I would have come eventually to the same conclusions,

there is a pain and a sense of betrayal in having been decided for. In having been shaken loose and rearranged.

I prefer to hold on till the discomfort helps me decide to let go. But

this prying away by sudden force feels like

violence. And I hurt.

2 thoughts on “A Bit of This About That

  1. This post makes me think back to the time I talked to a young lady, a co-worker, about anger and how destructive it could be. She could get really hot under the collar when customers were rude, so I tried to give her a practical illustration about how giving in to anger was self-destructive. She scoffed at my little story and said, “I don’t like to be told what to do. I want to make my own mistakes.”

    And she did. She went on to have arguments with her fiance that led to physical violence and separation. Then she drowned her sorrows at the bar night after night, which led to losing her job, an unwanted pregnancy and an abortion. (Her second; she had her first at age 15.) If she could have toned down her fiery personality, life would have been a lot easier.

    In one way I agree that making our own decisions and facing the consequences is a learning experience everyone needs. On the other hand, the Bible says, “A word to the wise is sufficient.” It’s we who make the decision, but we can often spare ourselves a lot of pain and regret by taking some advice.

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